I wish there were clear cut rules on who should or should not make your wedding guest list. This is one of the most difficult decisions I have come across so far in the wedding planning process.
My venue holds up to 150 people in the room in order to have dancing and dining all together. That being said, I have gone over the guest list multiple times. I started out feeling like this would be easy and originally only came up with 115 guests. Well, I then discussed with my fiancé and soon realized I missed some people, which moved it up to the 120s. He then discussed it with his parents and next thing I knew we were in the 130s. The number is getting closer and closer to our 150 max and it turns out my mom needs to add some people as well.
Now who do you include? Of course, the first people I wrote down were close family members and our wedding party. I went on to do some extended family and other close friends.
As I was writing down friends and family members, I stumbled upon the question of who gets to bring a "plus one" and who doesn’t. I used to think that everyone got one and have been surprised when I wasn’t given the option in the past. However, I now realize that was not the right reaction because weddings are expensive and why should a person get to bring a random guest when you could have someone else that you really want there instead?
I have been told, and I agree, that people should be allowed to bring a guest if you are friends with their significant other, they live with the person, are engaged, or married. If people are single or not seriously dating anyone or if you don’t know the boyfriend/girlfriend it should be perfectly okay not to include them in your special day.
I think we should be able to get our list to just a little over 150. I know you need to account for people saying no but with not having many out-of-towners we don’t want to go overboard.