To wrap up our pre-marital counseling, Sam and I were guided in setting goals for our future. Individually we each set three personal, couple and family goals, then shared them with each other and compared notes.
Luckily, our goals were pretty much the same!
Our counselor recommended that we keep these goals and every five years go back to reference them and evaluate if we met each or how things changed and adjusted since they were written. From there, she said we could write new goals for the next five years to come, and so on.
This idea has lead me on an endless thought over the past few days about what the future holds and how getting married is such a major milestone in life. I mean, I’ve dreamt about this experience my whole life, and I’ve been engaged for over a year and a half, yet in less than a month I’ll be married. That’s mind blowing.
And while I know it’s not like getting married is going to instantly flip a switch to a changed life -- in fact nothing will really change drastically from where it is now -- it’s the symbolism that I’m entering a new phase in life.
So as my wedding planning ends, I’ve realized that my serious life planning has begun. The next five years of my life will be focused on marriage, career and finding a place to plant our roots, the five years after that will be focused on starting and raising a family and so on.
To be honest, I’m not quite sure how I got here. Sometimes I still feel like I’m 16, but in fact, this is real life -– I’m about to be a married adult who thinks about buying my dream home and having kids. How unreal, intense, scary and yet all the while extremely exciting, too!Copyright © 2015, The Baltimore Sun