Should engaged women join the bouquet toss?

Should engaged women join the bouquet toss? (Photo courtesy Jamie Bacon / June 18, 2013)

A common tradition at weddings is for the bride to toss the bouquet.  The myth that goes along with this is that the woman to catch the bouquet will be the next one to get married. If you’re already engaged, though, and know you’re getting married soon, should you be a part of this? 

I have always participated in the bouquet toss at weddings before being engaged and always thought it was fun but have sat out at the past two weddings because I’m engaged now. The first wedding everyone seemed to think it was fine but the last wedding the bride yelled for me to get out there. Not wanting to upset the bride, I almost went but then declined because if I did catch it I didn’t want a random stranger putting a garter on me.

I think ultimately it should be up to the engaged woman. Don’t let anyone force you to join in the bouquet toss, but on the other hand don’t let people tell you that you can’t participate either. An engaged friend of mine has gone out and joined the fun and that’s perfectly fine. Someone said something to her about it but she didn’t care. She wasn’t married yet so she thought it was fair game. 

What do you think? I would like to know how other engaged people feel about the bouquet or garter toss and if they choose to join in or sit it out.