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A holiday with the "new" family takes priority

By Rachel Gatulis, For The Baltimore Sun

11:34 AM EST, November 28, 2012

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Happy post-Thanksgiving everyone! I hope you all have plenty to be thankful for and that you arrived at your turkey day destinations safely and sans hangover. A family friend of mine once gave me advice on juggling holiday time with my family and my future in-laws. She said, "Rachel, when you get married, you'll have three families: you, your husband and any children you may have; your family; and your husband's family. The family you create should always come first. The other two will understand."

Partially in honor of this advice, Andrew and I graciously declined Thanksgiving dinner invitations from family and friends. We decided to stay put in Baltimore and do something we are not very accustomed to these days -- relax together. Both sets of parents were very understanding of this decision. Let me just tell you, I was looking forward to the day more than any other Thanksgiving. An entire day alone together without obligations is a rarity. No cooking, no cleaning, no driving, no sleeping on someone else's couch or in hotels, no hosting and entertaining out-of-towners, and certainly no wedding planning. It was short-lived but glorious. This holiday season, for quality time with my new family, I am thankful.