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Collection: Tanika Davis' columns

  • Mothering, guilt and this-too-shall-pass

    Mothering, guilt and this-too-shall-pass

    It seems like 10,000 years ago, but really was only about four(ish), when I was sitting on the living room floor in pajamas, bouncing my baby daughter, who was crying, and attempting to read a book to my twin boys, who were whining and fighting over which one would get to sit on my free leg. Since...

  • 'Awesome' times three: A kid meets a local hero

    'Awesome' times three: A kid meets a local hero

    As parents of black children, we are constantly looking for ways to make sure our three littles know about the people throughout history – the heroes and sheroes – who look like they do. Although all our nation’s great men and women are worthy of study and will be celebrated in our home, it’s important...

  • Navigating the deep end of tricky twin milestones

    Navigating the deep end of tricky twin milestones

    One of the questions we get asked the most, as parents of fraternal twins, is if our two boys are very different. The answer is yes, of course. Though they were carried in the same womb and born on the same day (90 long minutes apart!), they were initially two distinct eggs, separately fertilized,...

  • A taste of the chaos and fun of a big family

    A taste of the chaos and fun of a big family

    Have you ever watched the reality shows about big families? If you’ve seen any one of them, you’ve pretty much seen them all. There was “Raising Sextuplets,” and “Quints By Surprise,” “Kate Plus 8,” “The Willis Family,” and a relatively new one, “OutDaughtered,” about a Texas family raising the...

  • For parents, summer break is the best of times and the worst of times

    For parents, summer break is the best of times and the worst of times

    The pools are open, the temperatures have reached 90 degrees and my porch flowers are already half-dead from lack of watering. Evidently, summer is here! Even before piecing together those telltale clues, I could have told you the season it was based solely on the questions and complaints repeated...

  • Confessions of a mom at a new low

    Confessions of a mom at a new low

    This week I left my child at home with a woman I don’t know. I am confessing here to what feels like a low, even for me, a mother who frequently pokes fun at her parenting “failures.” It’s difficult to discuss it, to invite in the inevitable judgment from other mothers who would never have done...

  • Introducing (gasp!) the World's Worst Mother

    Introducing (gasp!) the World's Worst Mother

    Hi, we haven't met. I'm the World's Worst Mother. You can just call me WWM, for short. And you are? Never mind. Don't tell me. I won't remember anyway. I can't remember anything these days, despite a paper calendar, a kitchen wall calendar, a Google calendar, Outlook reminders and many, many Post-it...

  • How to feel bad about work and parenting? Do both from home

    How to feel bad about work and parenting? Do both from home

    I have no photos from this week's snow day. No shots of happy, over-bundled children frolicking in blinding white snow, or sitting around the kitchen table in wet socks, sipping hot chocolate. This year, when the winter's only real snowfall worth mentioning happened, two out of three of my children...

  • Yes, our expectations do shape our children's behavior — profoundly

    Yes, our expectations do shape our children's behavior — profoundly

    One of the most exciting days of my life was when I discovered I could get "This American Life" — the public radio show that explores the nuances of humanity through interviews and storytelling — as a podcast on my smartphone. Since that glorious day, nearly every episode logged has taught, reminded...

  • Helping kids out of their 'entitlement cloak'

    Helping kids out of their 'entitlement cloak'

    A friend came to our house when our boys were toddlers and stood in my living room crying. Her father had died suddenly, and she was bereft. While I hugged her and cried too, the boys were sitting mesmerized by this uncommon show of adult emotion, when one tapped me on the leg and whispered, "Our...

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