Lifestyle Maryland Family

Collection: Tanika Davis' columns

  • Grandparents' unconditional love felt for generations to come

    Grandparents' unconditional love felt for generations to come

    The doorbell rang and our three little ones went tearing down the stairs: “Nana!” they yelled. “Granddad!” In the foyer, my mother bent to squeeze them and sing-song their names; her bracelets jingled like trilling birds. The boys doled out their awkward head-butt hugs. (Side note: Why do little...

  • When the odds are stacked against your kids, what do you do?

    When the odds are stacked against your kids, what do you do?

    The other day I was talking to my boys about their futures. At 7-and-a-half, their interests are wild and varied. One day, they want to be president of the United States; the next, they want to make a living working at the treasure-filled dollar store. So I wasn’t at all surprised when my firstborn...

  • Shootings shatter the illusion that we can keep our children safe

    Shootings shatter the illusion that we can keep our children safe

    Each day, I send my children out the door and watch my husband pull off in the car to take them to school. I close the door, grateful for the quiet, and continue the ordinary to-dos of the morning – showering, makeup, a hasty response to an email that just can’t wait. I don’t usually think much...

  • Yes, the holiday aftermath sads are real

    Yes, the holiday aftermath sads are real

    The children have ripped through the presents, leaving cardboard shreds and plastic packaging all over the house. The war-torn area under the tree has become yet another spot in the house that needs daily tending. Sweet potato pies are now sweet potato crumbs, though the tins remain – sad, shiny...

  • The perils of the overscheduled parent

    The perils of the overscheduled parent

    I hustled into the Merritt Athletic Club with my three children in tow, pleased that we were on time(ish) for the second birthday party and fourth kid-related event of the day. My plan was to drop off the twin boys and take my kindergartner with me to pick up beverages and snacks for the guests...

  • Mothering, guilt and this-too-shall-pass

    Mothering, guilt and this-too-shall-pass

    It seems like 10,000 years ago, but really was only about four(ish), when I was sitting on the living room floor in pajamas, bouncing my baby daughter, who was crying, and attempting to read a book to my twin boys, who were whining and fighting over which one would get to sit on my free leg. Since...

  • 'Awesome' times three: A kid meets a local hero

    'Awesome' times three: A kid meets a local hero

    As parents of black children, we are constantly looking for ways to make sure our three littles know about the people throughout history – the heroes and sheroes – who look like they do. Although all our nation’s great men and women are worthy of study and will be celebrated in our home, it’s important...

  • Navigating the deep end of tricky twin milestones

    Navigating the deep end of tricky twin milestones

    One of the questions we get asked the most, as parents of fraternal twins, is if our two boys are very different. The answer is yes, of course. Though they were carried in the same womb and born on the same day (90 long minutes apart!), they were initially two distinct eggs, separately fertilized,...

  • A taste of the chaos and fun of a big family

    A taste of the chaos and fun of a big family

    Have you ever watched the reality shows about big families? If you’ve seen any one of them, you’ve pretty much seen them all. There was “Raising Sextuplets,” and “Quints By Surprise,” “Kate Plus 8,” “The Willis Family,” and a relatively new one, “OutDaughtered,” about a Texas family raising the...

  • For parents, summer break is the best of times and the worst of times

    For parents, summer break is the best of times and the worst of times

    The pools are open, the temperatures have reached 90 degrees and my porch flowers are already half-dead from lack of watering. Evidently, summer is here! Even before piecing together those telltale clues, I could have told you the season it was based solely on the questions and complaints repeated...

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