'Grown' not 'open'

'Grown' not 'open' (Stephen Lovekin/Getty Images / April 17, 2013)

For weeks the media has feasted on a Jada Pinkett Smith comment that implied she and her husband Will enjoy an open marriage.

So she took to Facebook this week to put an end to the feeding frenzy. Or maybe to throw out another bone.

"Open marriage?" she wrote.  "Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not."

True that. But, hey, no harm in chatting about it, just a little, all the same. She goes on:

"The statement I made in regard to, 'Will can do whatever he wants,' has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.

"Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should 'behave'? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of 'you better act right or else' keep one honest and true?...

"Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE...for us???"

OK. Interesting. But is the marriage open or not?

"Here is how I will change my statement," Pinkett Smith concludes. "Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship...this means we have a GROWN one."

So that explains that. Sort of. Kind of.

She signed off "siempre." In this case, that might be Spanish for "enough already."