Jill Smokler, the bestselling Baltimore author behind the parenting website Scary Mommy, announced last week that she and her husband of 17 years, Jeff Smokler, are getting a divorce.
Jeff Smokler had come to the realization that he was gay, Jill Smokler wrote in a Facebook post on March 4.
“Without getting into too much personal detail, this is a reality which we have faced together for many years. And for a very long time, the deep love we had for one another sustained us through the more difficult moments that our increasingly diverging sexuality created,” Jill wrote in a Facebook post, which has received nearly 2,000 likes.
Jill, of Mount Washington, wrote that the two will "remain deeply committed to one another as partners and co-parents to the three most incredible kids we could ask for."
Jill and Jeff Smokler did not immediately respond to requests for comment from The Baltimore Sun.
Jeff also wrote publicly about their divorce in a post on the Scary Mommy website, which Jill founded in 2008. In the blog, entitled “When Love Isn’t Enough: Divorcing My Soulmate," Jeff writes that he first knew he was gay around four or five years ago.
"What should have been an easy choice — a no brainer — was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. Once I came to terms with the fact that I was gay, I figured I had two options: I could die — either from my intentional neglect of my health and well-being, or perhaps from something even more tragic — leaving my children fatherless, or I could come out and hope that I remained surrounded by the love of my friends, family, wife and children," Jeff wrote.
Though deciding to share their story was difficult, the Smoklers decided "to be as transparent in our online life as our real life, mostly because we'd spent 15 years lying and didn't want to for another moment," Jill wrote in a separate Facebook post.
"If sharing our story can help a single person realize that they have nothing to be ashamed of, and that the truth is infinitely better than living a lie, it will have been worth it."
In addition to the serious conversations, the Smoklers have been addressing their divorce with some levity, as well. The two have run into each other at Target, Jeff wrote, and Smokler seems to be enjoying the new space since Jeff has moved into his own place.
“You'll have to excuse me for a while," Jill wrote in a Facebook post accompanied by a picture of an empty closet. "I have some shopping to do. LOTS of [expletive] shopping. #byebyejeff #hellosecondmastercloset."