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  • Dad wants kids and new wife to meet

    Dad wants kids and new wife to meet

    Dear Amy: I am a father with two adult children from a 25-year marriage that ended six years ago. I got remarried 18 months ago to a woman who my adult children suspect ended my marriage to their mother (in reality, there were huge issues with my marriage of 25 years). I accepted that my adult...

  • Child wants to call parents' partners 'mom' and 'dad'

    Child wants to call parents' partners 'mom' and 'dad'

    Dear Amy: My ex and I have been separated for a year, and divorced for three months. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. My 7-year-old daughter asked if she could call him "daddy." I told her no. I explained that she has one mom and one dad, and that when we get remarried one...

  • DNA test reveals shocking results

    DNA test reveals shocking results

    Dear Amy: I recently found out through a DNA test that the man I thought was my father for more than 60 years is not my biological father. The DNA test also revealed that I have a half-sister. I do not want to be associated with this family and have decided not to communicate this new information...

  • Parents wonder if drunk grandma is fit babysitter

    Parents wonder if drunk grandma is fit babysitter

    Dear Amy: My husband and I are new parents of a 5-month-old son. Over a month ago we left the baby with my in-laws for a few hours to have a date night. When we returned that night, my mother-in-law, who was supposed to be the baby's primary caretaker for the evening, was drunk (well past the point...

  • To combat addiction, try a social media 'fast'

    To combat addiction, try a social media 'fast'

    Dear Amy: I have realized lately, after years of denial, that I am addicted to my smartphone and to social media. Sometimes it gets to the point where I can't even watch a movie without needing to be on my phone, checking every social media account as I watch the movie. The odd thing is that even...

  • Adult education class leads to childish behavior

    Adult education class leads to childish behavior

    Dear Amy: I teach an adult education class in a very culturally, racially and ethnically diverse community. One of my (foreign-born) students has recently brought to my attention some very negative and hurtful comments she has received from another of my students. She says this other student has...

  • Bitter child torn about confronting father

    Bitter child torn about confronting father

    Dear Amy: My mother died 10 years ago. My father, "Lucifer," started dating "Rebecca" within a week of my mom's funeral. After two years, my father informed me that he was going to disinherit my brother and me in favor of Rebecca and her three spawn. I begged my father not to do this, and told...

  • Adult daughter criticizes mom -- for everything

    Adult daughter criticizes mom -- for everything

    Dear Amy: I need some help with my oldest daughter. I divorced their father when my girls were under the age of five. My ex was an alcoholic and heavy smoker who was -- at best -- spotty with child support. I was a great earner and provided for the girls. We had dinner together every night and...

  • Long-buried secret resurfaces after deaths

    Long-buried secret resurfaces after deaths

    Dear Amy: A year after my mother died, I woke up to the sounds of my father and my married aunt (my mother's sister) having sex in the living room. I was 17 at the time and had to go to school the next morning. I was panicked that I would run across my aunt when leaving, since she was now in my...

  • Should son of abusive father try to reconcile?

    Should son of abusive father try to reconcile?

    Dear Amy: My husband, "Steven," was raised by an abusive father. He received regular beatings and humiliation (in front of his friends) as punishment. He was not a bad kid. His mother stood by passively and did nothing about it. Steven had two siblings who were not treated badly. As an adult, his...

  • Old friendship is hotbed of problems

    Old friendship is hotbed of problems

    Dear Amy: I have lifelong buddy in his 50s. He had a few emotional/family/divorce issues a decade ago and he basically checked out of life. He stopped maintaining his home and business and let his health go. There were years of dysfunctional behavior, borderline hoarding, a bad diet, a disastrous...

  • Husband anguished over wife's long-ago assault

    Husband anguished over wife's long-ago assault

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have been happily married for 26 years. We have raised two terrific daughters. I continue to struggle with an event that happened while we were still dating. While at a business conference, my wife (girlfriend at the time) was sexually assaulted by a client. She was concerned...

  • Boyfriend wants 'drunken one-night stand' in Vegas

    Boyfriend wants 'drunken one-night stand' in Vegas

    Dear Amy: My boyfriend of two and a half years told me that he wants to have a "drunken one-night stand" in Las Vegas. What should I do? -- Upset Girlfriend Dear Upset: I'm assuming from your question that your boyfriend wants to have a drunken one-night-stand in Vegas with someone other than you....

  • Landlord has become way too handy toward tenant

    Landlord has become way too handy toward tenant

    Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 40 years. He owns rental property, and last year a married woman moved into one of his houses. Her husband lives out of town and is expected to move here once he retires. A few months ago, she and my husband began an affair. I don't believe it was...

  • Grandparents want alone-time with the grandkids

    Grandparents want alone-time with the grandkids

    Dear Amy: We live out of town from our son, daughter-in-law and our three precious grandchildren. We fly to their town monthly to see them. Our daughter-in-law's mother lives around the corner. She is divorced and her life is completely devoted to her daughter, our son and the grandchildren. She...

  • Girlfriend doesn't want to share her Amazon account

    Girlfriend doesn't want to share her Amazon account

    Dear Amy: My boyfriend "Robby" is a wonderful person. I love him and his parents. Both of Robby's parents are good people, who are very involved in his life. Lately, I have been feeling annoyed by his mother, and feel guilty. She is very judgmental of her son's choices. For instance, he rarely...

  • Unhappy wife feels like 'old maid'

    Unhappy wife feels like 'old maid'

    Dear Amy: I am a healthy and vibrant 40-year-old woman in a same-sex marriage. After only six months of marriage, I feel like an old maid. My wife and I have suffered a lot of turmoil in a short time, with a death in the family, job loss, illness, financial problems and exes trying to come between...

  • A stranger's suggestion brings on DNA dilemma

    A stranger's suggestion brings on DNA dilemma

    Dear Amy: I have an 11-year-old son who is adopted. A total stranger approached and suggested to us that getting DNA testing would be a wonderful gift. He went on and on about what a loving gift this would be. (My son does not look like me, so this man correctly assumed he was adopted.) I found...

  • Birth announcement causes stir 37 years later

    Birth announcement causes stir 37 years later

    Dear Amy: I got pregnant 37 years ago. The father and I were in our 20s and engaged to be married, but he dumped me when I refused to have an abortion. He and I tried to reconcile a couple of times, but it was always contingent on me "getting rid of the kid." He didn't care how -- I could leave...

  • The 'kids' reject dad's new marriage. What now?

    The 'kids' reject dad's new marriage. What now?

    Dear Amy: I am a 52-year-old divorcee who recently married a wonderful 62-year-old widower. We are very happy except for one thing: Before we married, my husband's grown children (37and 35) attempted to stop us. His son was very happy and supportive initially, but his daughter apparently influenced...

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