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  • Grandmother's baby-sitting duties interfere with her relationship

    Grandmother's baby-sitting duties interfere with her relationship

    Dear Amy: My lady friend, “Kate,” and I have been together for nine years. We both have children and grandkids from our marriages. We are active seniors and travel often. When not traveling, we go out to dinner several times weekly and are fairly active socially. When my grandkids came along, I...

  • New teacher wants to run from the classroom

    New teacher wants to run from the classroom

    Dear Amy: This summer I left an unhappy but reliable job for a transitional teaching program. I’ve always been interested in teaching but hadn’t pursued it. All summer I was excited and looking forward to being in the classroom. I’ve invested thousands of dollars, my time, and my friends’ and family’s...

  • Woman wonders why people ask about her name

    Woman wonders why people ask about her name

    Dear Amy: I am a foreign-born U.S. citizen from Hong Kong, a formerly British colony for more than a century. I have lived in the U.S. for over 40 years. It is common for people in Hong Kong to use a Western name and our Chinese name together. Occasionally strangers in the U.S. ask me if “Lily...

  • Pregnancy news is tinged with loss

    Pregnancy news is tinged with loss

    Dear Amy: My husband and I just found out that I am pregnant. We weren’t planning this, but now that we’re over the shock, we are very happy. This will be the first grandchild for both of our families, and we know our parents are going to be thrilled. However, I’m nervous about telling my husband’s...

  • New homeowners are now victims of harassment

    New homeowners are now victims of harassment

    Dear Amy: My wife and I recently purchased our first home. The previous residents were an elderly couple who passed away. When we bought the house we did not know that the couple’s daughter and her husband and two teenage daughters were our neighbors across the street. (Another neighbor told us...

  • Social media making family members less social

    Social media making family members less social

    Dear Amy: I come from a large family, and we get together often. Lately I’ve come to dread our interactions. There are always some individuals who never put down their phones. They take pictures and videos from the minute the interaction starts until it finishes. I was recently at dinner with family...

  • Daughter at home 'forbids' mom to ask her whereabouts

    Daughter at home 'forbids' mom to ask her whereabouts

    Dear Amy: My 22-year-old daughter has moved back home after graduating from college. She has a job. Recently she let me know that I am not being respectful to her. Every weekend she takes off for parts unknown (to me) with people also largely unknown (to me). I text her in the morning and evening,...

  • Man resents wife's grief over ex's death

    Man resents wife's grief over ex's death

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together since 2010. Our marriage has never been perfect, but we have managed to stay together. We’ve both been married before and have kids from our first marriages. Last weekend, my wife’s ex-husband (father of her 14-year-old son) died — either from an overdose...

  • Son's wedding rush worries dad

    Son's wedding rush worries dad

    Dear Amy: My 25-year-old, self-sufficient son has met and decided to marry a 21-year-old young lady from the Philippines who is in this country on a work visa. She must return to her country in October. He has known this person for less than three months. As with many modern young people, he met...

  • Couple wants to resist mom's church marketing

    Couple wants to resist mom's church marketing

    Dear Amy: What can be done about my boyfriend’s overly religious mother, who repeatedly invites us to attend her church? She has invited us ever since we started dating, but now the pressure is really on. Her very small congregation (15 to 25 people) is actively looking to expand. The pastor has...

  • Girlfriend is orbiting in retrograde

    Girlfriend is orbiting in retrograde

    Dear Amy: My girlfriend of three years has become obsessed with astrology. I support her observation of the discipline, but now that we are more serious as a couple, she is trying to bring me into the fold. When Mercury is in retrograde, she complains and laments every purchase and every decision...

  • Family faces huge and unexpected challenge

    Family faces huge and unexpected challenge

    Dear Amy: I married my husband three years ago. We’re in our early 40s. His younger sister has two children, ages 8 and 2. The children were in a very bad situation, which ultimately led to them being sent to live with my in-laws two states away. The courts are involved and the children are in...

  • Widow bounces into new relationship

    Widow bounces into new relationship

    Dear Amy: I am a 51-year-old woman. My husband died two years ago. I started talking to a man through one of the online games I play. It started out as mild flirtation. I asked him if he was married. He told me his marriage was basically over. He hadn’t felt anything for his wife in quite a while....

  • The other woman wants to be the only woman

    The other woman wants to be the only woman

    Dear Amy: I am a 50-year-old married woman with two boys (one still a minor). I have been married to “Randall” for 27 years. Randall is a doctor and I’m a stay-at-home mom. He is a good provider. We have a good life, but it is deficient in passion. Six years ago, I fell in love with “Sam,” a married...

  • Romantic reconnection fizzles quickly

    Romantic reconnection fizzles quickly

    Dear Amy: I reconnected with my college boyfriend after finding him on our school's website. We had gone our separate ways many years ago. After months of talking on the phone, we decided we wanted to be together and to marry in the near future. We divorced our spouses. He rented us a condo, and...

  • What should parents do when son sees locker room vaping?

    What should parents do when son sees locker room vaping?

    Dear Amy: My 10-year-old son was in the locker room after ice hockey practice and he saw a 13-year-old vaping. This other boy was smoking a vaping device with strawberry-flavored nicotine. I’m very proud of my son for telling me, and for giving my husband and me the opportunity to let him know...

  • Boyfriend ponders optimal timing for breakup

    Boyfriend ponders optimal timing for breakup

    Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I are in our early 20s. We are pursuing our educations. She is a great person. We’ve dated for over two years now. I was recently offered a job halfway across the country in one of my dream cities. The company is holding this offer for me until I graduate in two years....

  • Grandparents pour on the pressure for a visit

    Grandparents pour on the pressure for a visit

    Dear Amy: About a year ago, my maternal grandparents sold their home and moved across the country to spend their retirement in a nicer town. Now they are pressuring my husband and me to fly out and stay with them for a week. They tell me, “Everyone else has come” or “We feel like you don’t really...

  • Employee frets about overdue job change

    Employee frets about overdue job change

    Dear Amy: I have spent the last seven years working in the same small department in a relatively small company (80 employees). My title has changed a couple of times since I have been here, and my responsibilities have increased over the years, but the basic structure of my job is static. I am...

  • Online relationship might be a catfish

    Online relationship might be a catfish

    Dear Amy: I have been in a committed online relationship with a man in the U.K. for what would now be two months, but a little over two weeks ago he completely disappeared. I’m 25 and he is 27. I first got in contact with him selling something on eBay, and we just started talking. Before he disappeared,...

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