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  • Man and his mate might be a mismatch

    Man and his mate might be a mismatch

    Dear Amy: I am a mature 25-year-old college-educated man with a great career. I was on the dating scene for several years when I met "Julie" — the girl of my dreams. We fell deeply in love and after four months we began to speak of a long-term future together. We seemed compatible in all the important...

  • Child's flying phobia has grounded family

    Child's flying phobia has grounded family

    Dear Amy: My husband and I have two boys, ages 7 and 4. The 7-year-old is a great traveler, but the last time we flew on a plane, when he was 5, our older son completely freaked out. I think the sound of the engine and the motion of the takeoff and landing scared him. He was fine once we were in...

  • Toxic family member manipulates matriarch

    Toxic family member manipulates matriarch

    Dear Amy: Without going into lengthy detail, we have been dealing with a bad relative for at least five years. We have constantly dealt with this person's inappropriate behavior. It has gotten to the point now that we don't even want to deal with this person anymore. But if we cut ties, this person...

  • Victimized granddaughter seeks compensation

    Victimized granddaughter seeks compensation

    Dear Amy: I am a 23-year-old female. Recently, my grandfather (my mother's father) died. He and I were estranged due to his ongoing molestation of me and my cousin, culminating in him raping me when I was 11. He was never punished, but I had no further contact with him. I have been promised an...

  • One-night stand brings on ethical dilemma

    One-night stand brings on ethical dilemma

    Dear Amy: I am a 20-year-old woman who has been in a two-year relationship with a guy who has been my good friend for seven years. Last summer, we were apart for three months when I moved across the country for an internship. Things were rough, I was very lonely and had a drunken one-night stand....

  • Family group wonders how to split cabin cost

    Family group wonders how to split cabin cost

    Dear Amy: My three siblings and I are planning a mountain getaway for our parents' 50th wedding anniversary celebration. My parents will be in the master suite room. We have all agreed to split their cost and expenses as a gift. When renting a large cabin with separate bedrooms, do you think singles...

  • Groom ponders bridal shower etiquette

    Groom ponders bridal shower etiquette

    Dear Amy: I am a groom-to-be. My fiancee and I grew up eight hours away from each other. My mother and my fiancee are close. Several months ago, my mom planned a bridal shower in my hometown. My fiancee's family was annoyed, upset and somewhat hostile about this, thinking that my mother was trying...

  • Couple at odds over homeless mother

    Couple at odds over homeless mother

    Dear Amy: My spouse, one of the most caring and genuine people I've ever met, has been inviting his elderly homeless mother into our house for meals, and on occasion, to bathe or do laundry. This happens a few times a month, typically during the day. He works from home. I work elsewhere. We live...

  • Daughter juggles relationship with two mothers

    Daughter juggles relationship with two mothers

    Dear Amy: I am a 37-year-old woman who was adopted at the age of 6. My adoptive mother, "Jane" encouraged me to find my biological mom, "Kate," after Jane had recently connected with her biological family (she was also adopted). I reconnected with Kate four years ago. Mom quickly became very upset...

  • Snooping mom discovers secret stash

    Snooping mom discovers secret stash

    Dear Amy: I was snooping in my son's basement and discovered he is growing weed. Should I confront him? He could lose his job, house, reputation and shared custody of his daughter. I am a nervous wreck thinking about how to approach him. My husband would have a stroke if he found out. I know I...

  • Security system reveals neighbor's habit

    Security system reveals neighbor's habit

    Dear Amy: My husband and I recently installed a security system with cameras. One of the cameras captures a view of the driveway and street in front of our house, as well as a partial view of my neighbor's driveway. My neighbor is a single mom with a teenage son. One day my husband was viewing...

  • Daughter closes distance, wants dad back

    Daughter closes distance, wants dad back

    Dear Amy: I am 38-year-old woman. I was raised by a single father, who sacrificed a lot for me growing up. He never dated and was devoted to me. I was a terrible teenage girl, and I mean awful. I put him through things that no parent should ever have to deal with. Now that I am the mother of a...

  • Good deed goes unnoticed at church

    Good deed goes unnoticed at church

    Dear Amy: Recently we had a heavy snowfall. The next day I called a neighbor to see if he needed a ride to church services. He gratefully accepted. When we approached the church, I noticed that he stopped in the vestibule, as if procrastinating in sitting down. I took my seat and minutes later...

  • Grieving husband deserves sympathy

    Grieving husband deserves sympathy

    Dear Amy: My husband and partner (we were a same-sex couple) of 39 years recently died. We live on the West Coast and his entire family (mother, brother, sisters, nieces, nephews, aunt, uncles) lives on the East Coast. I have no family. He left his childhood home more than 50 years ago, so he hardly...

  • Loving aunt tries to quell niece's depression

    Loving aunt tries to quell niece's depression

    Dear Amy: I have a 22-year-old niece who lives in another state. She is depressed. She was a cutter in high school, and she reacted badly from a boyfriend breakup in college. She ended up in a mental facility for a few days. She is now medicated and seeing a therapist. She doesn't think the therapist...

  • Parents worry about daughter's college drinking

    Parents worry about daughter's college drinking

    Dear Amy: My wife and I worry about our daughter. She's a sophomore at a top university. She's made the honor roll for three semesters in a row. Obviously, her academic progress is not our concern. What we don't talk about is her worsening drinking problem. Since she started college, she's been...

  • Mom worries about daughter's college prospects

    Mom worries about daughter's college prospects

    Dear Amy: My daughter is graduating from high school. She barely passes classes if she doesn't like the subject or the teacher. She doesn't bother with homework and will graduate by the skin of her teeth. She is great at talking people into giving her another chance and getting in under the wire....

  • Workplace exclusion creates petty drama

    Workplace exclusion creates petty drama

    Dear Amy: I have a new colleague who recently moved from another division at our company into mine. She is now working as the program coordinator for our team of eight colleagues. She is very accommodating to everyone, has a great attitude and is very adept at her job. I like working with her. ...

  • Mother and child could both use a Head Start

    Mother and child could both use a Head Start

    Dear Amy: My 25-year-old granddaughter and her 11/2-year-old son have been staying with me for a few weeks while waiting to get into an apartment. My granddaughter yells at her son a lot, and she uses foul language with him, including the F-word. Am I overreacting in thinking that this is wrong,...

  • Snark takes the wind out of wind ensemble

    Snark takes the wind out of wind ensemble

    Dear Amy: I am a member of a 50-piece wind ensemble. We have a break for cookies and coffee on practice nights, once a week. I have made homemade cookies for our break for more than 25 years. In May, we have an outdoor concert. I have brought cookies each year for after our performance. This year...

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