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  • A tough diagnosis brings on unexpected generosity

    A tough diagnosis brings on unexpected generosity

    Dear Amy: A few months ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and am currently receiving chemotherapy. As it has come up, I've notified my (other) medical providers. I have been a patient at a privately owned and operated manual physical therapy company for a couple of years (receiving treatment...

  • Baby might not bring troubled siblings together

    Baby might not bring troubled siblings together

    Dear Amy: My only brother and I have always had a difficult relationship. About two years ago, we stopped talking completely. When my husband and I found out that we were expecting our first child, I reached out to my brother to share the news. He was overjoyed, and we had a long conversation in...

  • Student ponders impact of workplace harassment

    Student ponders impact of workplace harassment

    Dear Amy: I am currently a first-semester student at a highly selective professional school. Because of the public nature of our future occupation(s), as students we are insanely private in terms of our personal conduct and on social media. Still, friendships have developed within the group. Seven...

  • Husband wants wife to shed some weight

    Husband wants wife to shed some weight

    Dear Amy: My wife has put on a few pounds, to the extent that it is probably not good for her long-term health. My wife is attractive, takes good care of herself, and has no current health problems, but I am concerned that she's putting herself at risk for future health problems if she does not...

  • Sister wrestles with addiction and homelessness

    Sister wrestles with addiction and homelessness

    Dear Amy: I allowed my sister, her dog and her friend to stay at my house instead of being homeless and sleeping on the street. The problem is, they are both alcoholics and will not try to get help or try to get a job to pay some kind of rent. I asked them both to make other living arrangements....

  • Upcoming holidays create in-law drama

    Upcoming holidays create in-law drama

    Dear Amy: I am having in-law troubles. About five years ago I asked my sisters-in-law if we could move the annual Christmas family gathering from a Sunday to a Saturday so that one of my kids could attend. He lives quite a distance away and would have to miss work on the Monday after if he attended...

  • Family loan turns relative into scofflaw

    Family loan turns relative into scofflaw

    Dear Amy: I lent some money to a young relative to buy a used truck. His mother thought that because he didn't have any credit record yet, he would learn to make payments on a regular basis by paying me, in addition to having a vehicle he needed for his job. We signed an agreement, which specified...

  • Reunion brings on fantasy and possible forgiveness

    Reunion brings on fantasy and possible forgiveness

    Dear Amy: My 45th college reunion is coming up. I met "Jill" in our freshman year. We became friends immediately. We had a common interest in sports; I was on the baseball and basketball teams, and she was a cheerleader who possessed superb athletic ability. We had a great platonic relationship...

  • Mom wears a thong; girls want to follow suit

    Mom wears a thong; girls want to follow suit

    Dear Amy: I am a 31-year-old mom. My two daughters are seven and five. When we go to the beach, I always wear a thong or G-string bottom. My daughters have started to scrunch their bathing suit bottoms so their suits look like mine. When we were shopping for new suits, my 7-year-old asked for a...

  • Husband is a Facebook troll

    Husband is a Facebook troll

    Dear Amy: I have been active on Facebook for several years. I generally use FB to keep in touch with friends I don't get to see often. I don't get too personal. My husband has recently become much more active on Facebook. After leaving a corporate job last year and going into business for himself,...

  • Recommendations to heal a wounded soul

    Recommendations to heal a wounded soul

    Dear Amy: I had a bad childhood, where I was physically and emotionally abused by my mother. She was a single mother of four, and I am the oldest. I am now responsible for my aged mother's care and finances. I find myself very resentful and holding grudges from more than 40 years ago that interfere...

  • Mother's pursuit may be pushing son away

    Mother's pursuit may be pushing son away

    Dear Amy: My college-aged son and his male friend, "Randall," were staying with us at our vacation home this summer. This was the first time we had met Randall. Late one night, I went downstairs, assuming they had left the TV on and had gone to bed, and walked in on them in a state of undress during...

  • Mom's doggy day care raises hackles

    Mom's doggy day care raises hackles

    Dear Amy: I moved in with my boyfriend fairly recently. His mother, "Betty," comes to the house every day while we are at work and lets the dogs out and helps in the yard. We are totally fine with that and are openly very appreciative; she is a fantastic person and I'm grateful to be accepted into...

  • In-law wants to protect her investment with engaged couple

    In-law wants to protect her investment with engaged couple

    Dear Amy: I'm engaged to be married soon. My fiancee bought a house last year, with a sizable down payment provided by her mother. A few weeks ago, my future mother-in-law expressed the sentiment that we should wait to put my name on the deed of the house in order "to see how the marriage works...

  • Neglected dogs leave neighbors barking mad

    Neglected dogs leave neighbors barking mad

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have lived in a quiet neighborhood for 22 years. Four months ago, new neighbors moved in. We endured three months of noisy renovations, construction, tree removals, etc. before they moved in. Over the last month their two dogs have been left outside barking at 6 a.m., and...

  • Death in the family redefines the family

    Death in the family redefines the family

    Dear Amy: Earlier this year, my partner of more than 20 years died of brain cancer. Every day is still very hard. For almost all of those 20 years, we typically spent the holidays with his mother and father and his siblings and their children. (Both of my parents are deceased, and my only brother...

  • What to do when an upset teen is at the door

    What to do when an upset teen is at the door

    Dear Amy: My daughter, an almost-single working mother of two teens, recently relayed a scenario, which she said she didn't know how to handle. She said she didn't have any training or previous experience with this sort of thing. My daughter was going to bed when the doorbell rang. A friend of...

  • Fiance with sick mom wants to wed ASAP

    Fiance with sick mom wants to wed ASAP

    Dear Amy: Last April my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. This past Labor Day, I got engaged. Now my fiancee and I are trying to make our wedding plans. I would like to get married sooner rather than later, as my mother's prognosis is not great. My fiancee would like more time...

  • Architect engages in poorly designed deception

    Architect engages in poorly designed deception

    Dear Amy: I am a 30-year-old man. I used to live in New York City, where I worked as an architect. I met a 22-year-old girl on Tinder two weeks ago in New York. The first date went well, and we agreed to meet again after I returned from my two-week vacation in Sydney, Australia. The thing I could...

  • Parent wants in-laws to finance kids' higher education

    Parent wants in-laws to finance kids' higher education

    Dear Amy: My husband and I are parents to three college-age children. All three are good students who attend flagship state universities. Of course, as parents, we think they are great and well-rounded young adults. They have never given us a lick of trouble and have no trouble speaking and holding...

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