A flawed, inconsistent police response to sexual assault in Maryland

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  • Grieving family struggles to come together

    Grieving family struggles to come together

    Dear Amy: My sister recently died suddenly. My husband does not like my late sister's husband. My mother invited my sister's husband to share our holiday dinner. I have a problem with him right now because after 35 years together (she even waited for him while he was in prison for more than a decade),...

  • Marriage on the rocks needs quick help

    Marriage on the rocks needs quick help

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for almost 10 years. We are in our mid-30s. We don't have children. We have hit a brick wall. She says that she completely resents me for not going to family functions and doing couples activities. I will try harder to do more of these things. She has said...

  • Beneficiary says emphatic 'no thanks!'

    Beneficiary says emphatic 'no thanks!'

    Dear Amy: A man who I was romantically involved with many years ago announced to me that he is making me the beneficiary on his insurance policy. I am fond of him, but I could never spend my life with him because he constantly made bad decisions throughout the years. We went our separate ways,...

  • Couple clashes over stepson's future

    Couple clashes over stepson's future

    Dear Amy: Three years ago I met the woman of my dreams. Six months later, I met her 20-year-old son. "Vicky" told me what a great kid "Charlie" was. He lived in another state, and one day we got a call from him saying he was in jail and needed to be bailed out for his second DUI. Vicky paid for...

  • Sister's harsh parenting advice is unwelcome

    Sister's harsh parenting advice is unwelcome

    Dear Amy: I come from a large, opinionated family, and we have a history of sibling rivalry and arguing, which is finally starting to subside as we start our own families. We also have a faith-based background, so we also realize now that peace can't come from arguing. That said, I have one older,...

  • Pejorative about president causes alarm

    Pejorative about president causes alarm

    Dear Amy: A dear friend of many years called our president the most horrible racist word imaginable. I immediately made it clear that this was disgusting and unacceptable. We are on opposite sides of the political divide. I try not to talk politics, but the election has been weighing heavily on...

  • Bride worries about cutting friend from wedding

    Bride worries about cutting friend from wedding

    Dear Amy: When "Maria" and I first met, we promised each other to be as close as sisters forever, but things have changed over the years. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in our early 20s and will not take medication or go to counseling. Maria prefers to self-medicate with drugs. She's never...

  • Fiance catches partner cheating, wants to heal

    Fiance catches partner cheating, wants to heal

    Dear Amy: I recently caught my fiancee of 12 years cheating on me with a co-worker. We have two children together. After I discovered her infidelity, she came home crying and admitted everything. She was also very surprised at how I handled it. I didn't yell, curse or demand anything. I tried just...

  • Dad and dog might not play well together

    Dad and dog might not play well together

    Dear Amy: My 26-year-old daughter's boyfriend just relocated to another city. Our daughter asked if he could travel the several hours to our home and stay with us over the holidays. We welcome him. They have been dating for the past two years, and this separation has been hard on her (she is still...

  • Idea to get fake-drunk at wedding is bananas

    Idea to get fake-drunk at wedding is bananas

    Dear Amy: I married my husband seven years ago. A close girlfriend of mine was one of my bridesmaids. She got ridiculously drunk at my wedding. She ran around the dance floor like an idiot. She hit on one of my husband's married friends in front of his wife. She threw up in the bathroom, and one...

  • Demanding boss expects work midcrisis

    Demanding boss expects work midcrisis

    Dear Amy: I love my job. My boss, "Hal," is extremely generous. Hal can be demanding and exacting, but most of the successful people I have worked for were like that, and I'm used to it. Last week my mother was admitted to the hospital with a broken bone. I called Hal right away to let him know...

  • Wife ponders mystery of husband's behavior

    Wife ponders mystery of husband's behavior

    Dear Amy: I fell madly in love with a wonderful, kind man. He told me that he had been with 30-plus women in his 55-plus years, primarily for sex. When he told me he really loved me and had never truly felt this way before about any other woman, it won me over, and now we are married. I am seven...

  • Assault survivor wants to turn detective

    Assault survivor wants to turn detective

    Dear Amy: Twenty years ago, when I was 15, I was sexually assaulted by two men. I met a man online who lied about his age. We spoke on the phone for a couple of weeks. He persuaded me to sneak out of my house to go to a party. Against my better judgment, I met him, and he drove me to his house,...

  • Daughter wants change, but Dad reneges

    Daughter wants change, but Dad reneges

    Dear Amy: I am a 28-year-old woman, working at a job I love. My father routinely lies to me. When I was growing up he sold his business for several million dollars. He chose not to pay his taxes, invested the money, lost it all, and then kept it hidden from my mother until the truth came out that...

  • Should daughter intervene when dad snaps at mom?

    Should daughter intervene when dad snaps at mom?

    Dear Amy: I was raised by two wonderful parents. My sister and I are independent and strong women. My parents allowed me, my husband and our two infant children, to move in with them for a year to save for a deposit on our next home and pay off debt. Things have been going well. My father is near...

  • Family elder lives life half-baked

    Family elder lives life half-baked

    Dear Amy: A senior citizen member of my family (who lives in my house) gets high at least three times a day. I am concerned about her health. She smokes pot morning, noon and night. When she is somewhat lucid, it is with eyes half closed and a vacant smile on her face. Sometimes she stares at inanimate...

  • Woman caught between boyfriend and mother

    Woman caught between boyfriend and mother

    Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We're both 32 years old. I live at home with my divorced mother. He lives alone two hours away. We make an effort to see each other every couple of weeks. I plan to move closer to him. I have a successful career and I don't want...

  • Grandparent visits cause strain in family

    Grandparent visits cause strain in family

    Dear Amy: My brother and his family (wife and two young kids) moved about three hours away. Any visit by my retired parents usually requires an overnight stay, since they are not comfortable driving long distances at night. Staying over at his house means either sleeping on the couch or sleeping...

  • Grief over miscarriage leads to guilt

    Grief over miscarriage leads to guilt

    Dear Amy: My miscarriage was 10 years ago. I still grieve for my lost "Grace." It took many years to come to terms with this loss, and there is still one thing I struggle with: We conceived our daughter "Clara" when I should have been seven months pregnant with Grace. Clara was born a preemie (a...

  • Recipient looks gift horse in the mouth

    Recipient looks gift horse in the mouth

    Dear Amy: A well-known singer announced a tour date for my city. My father generously offered to buy tickets as a birthday gift. I was delighted, but I also let him know that I needed to find someone to join me. He texted back "I'll get two tickets and you will find someone to go." I invited a...

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