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  • Adult daughter wants birth parents to adopt her

    Adult daughter wants birth parents to adopt her

    Dear Amy: My wife of 20 years surrendered her daughter, "Betsy," for adoption 30 years ago. My wife and I were reunited with Betsy 10 years ago and have become very close, although Betsy lives in a different state. Betsy and her adoptive parents have become estranged over the past few years. So...

  • Husband sends marriage to the dogs

    Husband sends marriage to the dogs

    Dear Amy: Shortly after my husband and I began dating, he bought a large-breed puppy. He took the dog everywhere he went. We then moved in together, we got another small, mixed-breed dog that we hoped would keep the large dog busy, since he was always demanding my husband's attention. One evening,...

  • Upset young adult fondly remembers the 1990s

    Upset young adult fondly remembers the 1990s

    Dear Amy: I am 24 years old. I am a happy person overall, but lately I've been feeling down. With everything going on in today's world, and the state of society these days, it scares me at times. I felt safe in the '90s. Not so much seemed to be happening back then. Life was simpler. Is what I'm...

  • Step-family excludes one sister from wedding invite

    Step-family excludes one sister from wedding invite

    Dear Amy: My father has been married to his second wife for 14 years. I have a pretty good relationship with my dad, and initially I enjoyed a good one with his wife. Over the years, things have changed. It is not a bad relationship, but it's just not a good one. She has two children. Initially,...

  • Couple should be smarter than their smart phone

    Couple should be smarter than their smart phone

    Dear Amy: My husband and I each got an iPhone recently. We each downloaded the "Find My Friend" app. Ever since then, he has been tracking me when I go out, saying that he is "testing" the app. I know this because the app occasionally does not work, and when I get back home he asks me repeatedly...

  • Former actress re-creates soap opera at wedding

    Former actress re-creates soap opera at wedding

    Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I (we are gay) recently decided to get married, but my fiance and various family members are suggesting that we exclude my 92-year-old grandmother from the wedding. My grandmother regularly shocks people. She says offensive and hurtful comments to everyone to elicit a...

  • Teeth cleaners leave restrooms with hidden surprises

    Teeth cleaners leave restrooms with hidden surprises

    Dear Amy: Where I work, we have several departments, which share a large, public bathroom. My issue is this: Often, I walk into the bathroom to see a colleague brushing their teeth in one of these public sinks. I'm guessing the most common reason is to prepare for a dentist appointment, but regardless...

  • Christmas price tag feels like holiday snub

    Christmas price tag feels like holiday snub

    Dear Amy: My 17-year-old daughter and I are still trying to recover from a Christmas snub. In our family, we draw names and have a $50 budget. My daughter's cousin drew her name and had purchased the item my daughter wanted, but he bought a smaller size than she wears and the gift cost about $30....

  • Widowed mom misuses handicap parking permit

    Widowed mom misuses handicap parking permit

    Dear Amy: My beloved father-in-law passed away a few months ago. Before he died, he was bedridden for several years. He received a handicap parking permit. During the years of his sickness, mom proudly displayed it whenever she parked, even though dad was not with her. Now that he has died, she...

  • Airport customers get played by line cutter

    Airport customers get played by line cutter

    Dear Amy: I recently returned from a trip. At the airport, the gate agent asked us to start lining up, as the plane had been delayed twice, and he didn't want to delay us further. We started to form the lines he indicated by what was on our boarding passes. The line I was in reached about 50 people...

  • Distant son ponders difficult family gathering

    Distant son ponders difficult family gathering

    Dear Amy: I am in my 60s, the oldest of four children. My relationship with my family was distant, but for the last 10 years I've attended a few family events (we are now all geographically scattered), kept in touch with my two brothers and have made an effort to see my mother, who's getting older...

  • Girlfriend worries about future mother-in-law

    Girlfriend worries about future mother-in-law

    Dear Amy: I am a 23-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years. We currently live together and plan on getting married and having children. We are perfect together and I couldn't ask for a better partner. His mother and I do not get along. From the very beginning...

  • Bestowing mom's surname on baby causes problems

    Bestowing mom's surname on baby causes problems

    Dear Amy: My brother and his wife are expecting a third child. My sister-in-law is pushing to have the baby use her last name because her side of the family doesn't have any males to carry on the name. This has caused a huge rift in our family. My older parents are heartbroken. I would like to...

  • Work friends clash over pregnancy disclosure

    Work friends clash over pregnancy disclosure

    Dear Amy: I used to be very good friends with a colleague. We regularly socialized outside of work and I was a frequent guest in her home. This all changed, however, when (in my supervisory role) I followed work protocol and notified our HR department that she was pregnant. Even as other colleagues...

  • College student resents parental interference

    College student resents parental interference

    Dear Amy: I am 21 years old and attend college out of state. I am lucky to go to college, except that I can't do anything without parents' approval. They pay for college because they refuse for me to have loans. The problem is that since they pay for my schooling, they hold everything over my head....

  • Bullied child becomes bullied husband

    Bullied child becomes bullied husband

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for more than 30 years and have raised three children. My wife is a controller and often treats me as either a child, a student or an employee, not the equal partner I should be. Push back to my childhood. I was a short, skinny, clumsy kid who was bullied...

  • Mother worries about Communion exclusion

    Mother worries about Communion exclusion

    Dear Amy: My husband's brother and his wife just got divorced after 17 years of marriage and 25 years of being together. They have three children, who are close cousins to my three children. All the children are under the age of 15. My children love their aunt and uncle and consider her still their...

  • Adult daughter may have eating disorder

    Adult daughter may have eating disorder

    Dear Amy: Due to a job layoff last year, our 32-year-old daughter has been living with my husband and me. She recently returned to work, but receives a low salary and no health insurance. She has a gluten intolerance, which requires meals without wheat and other additives. She refuses to eat the...

  • Mother worries about daughter's taste in men

    Mother worries about daughter's taste in men

    Dear Amy: My daughter, who is 40, and her daughter, age 10, have been living with me for the past couple of years. My daughter has a very good and demanding job, so I do all the cooking, shopping and housework, work at my granddaughter's school, etc. My daughter has ADHD and is very disorganized....

  • Bipolar mother and daughter struggle to connect

    Bipolar mother and daughter struggle to connect

    Dear Amy: I have spent many years struggling with my older daughter's attitude toward me (and many others). I have cried, sobbed and ranted (to myself), but I can't figure out what to do. She is in her mid-30s, and spent her childhood going back and forth between her father and myself. Amicably....

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