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  • Woman's search for love should start in the mirror

    Woman's search for love should start in the mirror

    Dear Amy: I'm a 28-year-old woman who has been trying to find love for her entire life, but no luck! I've been trying online dating for the past few years, but I always get dumped, or the guy tells me that he doesn't want a relationship. My last heartbreak was a guy four years younger, telling...

  • Gun-toting brother-in-law wants to open-carry around kids

    Gun-toting brother-in-law wants to open-carry around kids

    Dear Amy: My brother-in-law and I don't have a particularly good relationship, and one of the sticking points is gun ownership. He believes in the right to carry (openly), and I think guns should be carried only by police. Every time I ask him not to bring guns near our family (we have three young...

  • Newlywed wonders if there are weekends on the ranch

    Newlywed wonders if there are weekends on the ranch

    Dear Amy: My husband and I were married only three months ago. We are both in our 60s. He has two children from his first marriage, and I have none. We dated for three years before our marriage. My husband has always enjoyed working, and he worked nonstop throughout our relationship. I have asked...

  • Friendship triangle leads to non-negotiables

    Friendship triangle leads to non-negotiables

    Dear Amy: I'm in trouble with my best friend of nine years and my girlfriend of 13 months. My best friend, "Tony," sent some mean messages to my girlfriend, "Becky" regarding her physical appearance, her family and their financial status, as well as our relationship overall. She said some things...

  • Internet matching leads to dog sitting

    Internet matching leads to dog sitting

    Dear Amy: I met my boyfriend online a year ago. I lived in another state, was independent and had a decent job, but I struggled financially. I have no family left. When my guy and I talked, it was electric! This man offered me so much. After only a few months, he asked me to move to his state....

  • Father and son engage in demolition derby

    Father and son engage in demolition derby

    Dear Amy: I've been dating a wonderful man, "Don," for a year. I am worried that Don is being used by his father, "Don Sr." Don Sr. moved in with him three years ago. In that time, Don has not only paid for everything, including his father's bills, but he has also bought four cars for his father,...

  • Childless couple vows to end friendship over kids

    Childless couple vows to end friendship over kids

    Dear Amy: My husband and I are in our late 20s. We are close friends with a married couple who are about 10 years older than we are. They struggled with infertility for years. They pretend they're OK with their situation, but clearly they aren't. Anytime a child is around the woman gets very emotional....

  • Grandparents' claims don't match reality

    Grandparents' claims don't match reality

    Dear Amy: My parents and my wife's parents both live 20 minutes from us. Both sets of parents purposely moved to be close to us. Both sets of parents tell people how often they see their grandkids, which is simply not true. My mom speaks as if she sees them multiple times a week, but she generally...

  • Cybersecurity expert gets 'spousehacked'

    Cybersecurity expert gets 'spousehacked'

    Dear Amy: I have been married for 25 years. I recently earned my degree in cybersecurity/computer forensics with highest honors. Recently, we hosted a social event. The topic shifted to problems with our internet provider. My husband was attempting to say we could use another service. I explained...

  • Know-it-all brother doesn't know relationships

    Know-it-all brother doesn't know relationships

    Dear Amy: My brother has always been difficult to deal with. He thinks he knows everything about everything. I have always overlooked his faults and helped him out. He has been divorced twice and only knows one of his three children. He has been fired from numerous jobs and has lost countless friends...

  • Is forgiveness possible when someone continues to hurt?

    Is forgiveness possible when someone continues to hurt?

    Dear Amy: I'm looking for some wisdom: How do you have a meaningful relationship with a family member or friend when that person hurt you, continues to hurt you, doesn't think he/she has done anything wrong and refuses to apologize? Do you simply forgive without an apology, and if that's the case,...

  • Big-box shopper has a very bad day

    Big-box shopper has a very bad day

    Dear Amy: I just got back from shopping at a big-box store. This was after a long week of work, so I was already tired. In the store, people were pushing the too-big carts around, banging their carts off of each other, and all the while talking loudly on their cellphones. There were long lines...

  • Parent is tired of explaining gender transitioning

    Parent is tired of explaining gender transitioning

    Dear Amy: I have two wonderful kids. They are both in the military. One is active, and the other is a veteran on disability, who is also transgender. When people ask, "How are your girls?" I usually say, "Well, one is now a male," or I'll start by saying, "One of my kids suffered his whole life...

  • Wife wonders about siblings' bathroom habits

    Wife wonders about siblings' bathroom habits

    Dear Amy: I am a married woman. My husband and his younger sister are of a Mediterranean nationality. Family relationships are "closer" there, I think, than those in North America or Europe. I was shocked to see my husband and his sister in our bathroom together. She was putting on makeup; he was...

  • Older sister struggles to describe family relationship

    Older sister struggles to describe family relationship

    Dear Amy: My mother was a single mom for most of my childhood. I was an only child. When I was 18, my mama got remarried. My stepdad and I get along really well, so no problems there. I don't call my stepfather "Dad." I call him by his name, "Jack." This has never been an issue, but my little sister,...

  • Wronged wife stalks husband's former girlfriend

    Wronged wife stalks husband's former girlfriend

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together for eight years but have been growing apart. Recently, I met a woman and started seeing her. The affair lasted for three months. My wife found out and was obviously hurt by it. She said that she forgives me, and we both acknowledged our issues and wrong...

  • Rings come with warrantees; friendship doesn't

    Rings come with warrantees; friendship doesn't

    Dear Amy: A very dear friend of mine has agreed to marry who she "believes" is the man of her dreams. She is a 31-year-old Christian woman who has lived in a small community all her life. She and the man she has chosen to settle with dated for only a year prior to him "popping" the question. He...

  • Mom's frequent borrowing crimps daughter's choices

    Mom's frequent borrowing crimps daughter's choices

    Dear Amy: My mother frequently borrows money from me at the last minute for various reasons. The "loan" amounts have gotten progressively higher, as I've climbed the ranks at my company. I've been paid back 30 to 40 percent of the time, but she "owes" me close to $10,000. My mom lives in a Third...

  • A springtime fling leads to luke-warm feet

    A springtime fling leads to luke-warm feet

    Dear Amy: I met a guy this spring, and we basically spent every day together during the summer. One night he texted me to say "good night," and added that he loves me. Although I felt the same way, I was completely shocked that he felt this way. A couple of weeks later, we spent a week on vacation...

  • Height isn't this dating misfit's only challenge

    Height isn't this dating misfit's only challenge

    Dear Amy: While I could write a novel on how I feel, I will keep this short and sweet. I am a 39-year-old man and a dietitian. Health is very important to me. My problem is that women in my dating range have been married and had multiple kids and have let their bodies go to waste. Before you say...

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