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  • Roommate uncomfortable with late-night situation

    Roommate uncomfortable with late-night situation

    Dear Amy: I live with a roommate who is in her 60s and heterosexual. I am in my 30s and a lesbian. Recently she informed me that she was going to be hosting a male companion for dinner, drinks and dancing. I had plans and asked her if she wanted me to sleep elsewhere or if she wanted to text me...

  • Neighbors' partying creates a disturbance

    Neighbors' partying creates a disturbance

    Dear Amy: My wife and I recently bought a beautiful new house that we are very happy with. We moved here in the winter and now that it's summertime, we are all spending more time out on our decks. Two of our new neighbors frequently have loud parties outside well past 10 p.m. It is concerning to...

  • Family roiled by grandfather's treatment choice

    Family roiled by grandfather's treatment choice

    Dear Amy: About two months ago my husband's grandfather was diagnosed with cancer. Despite the doctor urging him to reconsider, he decided to eschew traditional Western medicine in favor of holistic treatments. He's since gotten drastically worse, has lost 35 pounds — he was already very skinny...

  • Woman tries to repel friendship advance

    Woman tries to repel friendship advance

    Dear Amy: My husband has a highly specialized career. As a result, I find myself in a subculture (spouse) of a subculture (occupation) of a subculture (company). My husband works with "Dan," who is married to "Cate." For a while now, Cate has been reaching out to try to get together. She is an...

  • Mother tries to deal with daughter's defilement

    Mother tries to deal with daughter's defilement

    Dear Amy: My 45-year-old daughter got a large tattoo on her inner arm. Imagine my surprise when I finally saw it. I said to her, "Is that real?" She laughed and said, "Yes." Nothing further was said during my visit except for once when I stated, "I don't like tattoos." That was three years ago....

  • Parents should not expose baby to biting dogs

    Parents should not expose baby to biting dogs

    Dear Amy: My husband and I are expecting our first child, and my in-laws are very excited. They are already planning a visit to meet their new grandchild. But the in-laws want to bring their aggressive dogs too. The dogs have bitten me and others on many occasions. One is very large and will attack...

  • Hikers encounter trail of rudeness

    Hikers encounter trail of rudeness

    Dear Amy: Why do people have to be so rude to old people? I need to know how to respond when someone has been rude to me or my friends. We are three people in our seventies. We live near a national park and have been hiking for nine years. We have probably hiked more miles uphill than the people...

  • Sisters' animosity leads to family phase-out

    Sisters' animosity leads to family phase-out

    Dear Amy: There is a lot of animosity and competitiveness between my sister and me. I don't trust her with my feelings because I always get hurt. I've always received good grades, I financially support myself, and I have a stable job. My parents have never had to worry about me. However, she is...

  • Landlord status ends friendship

    Landlord status ends friendship

    Dear Amy: My husband and I rented our house to friends approximately two years ago, for substantially below-market rent. Shortly after they moved in, property values started going up and we hinted that we would like to sell the property when they vacated it. About six months after their lease ended,...

  • Mother struggles with daughter's insults

    Mother struggles with daughter's insults

    Dear Amy: I am the mother of a 21-year-old girl and an 18-year-old boy. My problem is with my daughter. She treats me very disrespectfully. She'll tell me to "shut up" and calls me "stupid" or "dumb" if something doesn't suit her or if she's feeling stressed about school or work (she is a straight-A...

  • Newcomer's negligee appalls club members

    Newcomer's negligee appalls club members

    Dear Amy: A couple -- "Mark" and "Rhonda" -- just moved into our area. My husband and Mark are going to be business associates, so I contacted them by phone and introduced myself to Rhonda, offering to take them to our social club for dinner. I told her that there was a dress code at our club:...

  • Mother's failure to bond is cause for concern

    Mother's failure to bond is cause for concern

    Dear Amy: I am married to a wonderful man. I have an adult daughter from a previous marriage who I love and am close too; we bonded well when we were alone after the divorce. In my second marriage, we have two young children who are 8 (daughter) and 5 (son). My second daughter was my now husband's...

  • Beach getaway suddenly goes away

    Beach getaway suddenly goes away

    Dear Amy: My family has spent a week at a beach house every summer. My brother, sister and I — along with our families — have converged upon the house every year for a family reunion and vacation. My siblings and I buy groceries, make meals and clean/fix whatever we can as a kind of payment for...

  • Family reacts rudely to wedding seating

    Family reacts rudely to wedding seating

    Dear Amy: My cousin recently invited us (a family of four) to her son's wedding. We were disappointed that we were seated all the way to the back, near the door, by the exit of the reception hall. We also noted that quite a few tables in the middle had only two or three people at them (last-minute...

  • Ghosting 'evil' aunt is not bullying

    Ghosting 'evil' aunt is not bullying

    Dear Amy: For all who don't know my aunt well, she is a loving, sweet and caring person with a great personality. Unfortunately, for her family members, we all know her true dark, psychotic and twisted side and have been subject to her abusive mental torture. Her daughter is just like her, so as...

  • If Hugh Grant says it, this word must be OK

    If Hugh Grant says it, this word must be OK

    Dear Amy: At some point during the last few years, my middle-aged aunt adopted a particular word to express mild annoyance. For example, when our plans to meet up for Sunday brunch had to be canceled, she used this word. It is a word you hear occasionally in British movies or television shows,...

  • Happily married spouse tries to prepare for loss

    Happily married spouse tries to prepare for loss

    Dear Amy: My wife and I have been happily married for 45 years. Marrying her remains the best and wisest thing I've ever done. But we're getting older. I'm 73 and in good health. She's 76 and has had several medical issues. I'm beginning to realize I may outlive her. I can't imagine life without...

  • Children fret about elderly mother's risky life

    Children fret about elderly mother's risky life

    Dear Amy: My 85-year-old alcoholic mother lives alone in a big house in a small village in New England. I am one of her four children, all of whom live at least 150 miles from her. We have all tried, unsuccessfully, to convince her to stop driving so that she doesn't cause an accident that could...

  • Man texts timeless plot with ex-wife

    Man texts timeless plot with ex-wife

    Dear Amy: I have a problem. My wife left me because she couldn't take life with me anymore. Honestly, I don't blame her. She basically stopped talking to me. One day I decided to text her from a different phone number. I pretended I was someone else and she started texting with me, not knowing...

  • Half of a couple is itchy to get married

    Half of a couple is itchy to get married

    Dear Amy: I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He's my best friend, and I truly believe he's the love of my life. We genuinely like spending time together, and our sex life is great! Our families love each other. I just have one issue: I feel like we are on different pages when it comes...

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